Tag: mental-health
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I Have Four Months Before This Becomes a Problem
I may or may not have a problem. I am not entirely sure. I am, however, pretty sure that if I described my current behavior to a therapist, that therapist would tilt their head slightly, pause for a professional beat, and then say something like your behavior is becoming a bit concerning. Which would be…
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Apparently, My Nervous System Has a Type.
Fair warning: this post started as a feeling and turned into me going down a rabbit hole at eleven o’clock at night, because that is simply how my brain handles feelings. Other people journal. I google things until my eyes hurt. Both are valid coping strategies. Here is the feeling. Most of us, if we…
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Happiness Was Never Meant to Be a Place You Live
I hear about happiness every day. From patients. From friends. From family. From strangers who overhear me in coffee shops and decide to tell me about their pursuit of it. It is one of the most talked-about, most searched-for, most obsessed-over concepts in modern life. And I have started to think we are talking about…
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You Want Submission? Let’s Talk About What That Actually Costs You.
There is a whole genre of social media content right now that I keep running into, and I would like to have a word about it. It is the current wave of posts — many of them explicitly aimed at women, though the argument applies to any human being — about the beauty of submission…
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You Are Supposed to Feel Bad Sometimes
I have spent a lot of time on social media lately, which is its own confession, and I have come to a conclusion. Most of the problems I see people creating for themselves — the messy exits, the unnecessary lies, the destroyed relationships, the endless drama, the same mistakes made over and over in slightly…
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Use Your Words
I need to talk about a specific genre of post, because it is everywhere and it is starting to give me a tic. You know the one. Soft background. Nice font. Gentle little affirmation energy. *Normalize walking away. Normalize going no contact. Normalize never speaking to that person again. Normalize leaving.* And every single time,…
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The Best Kept Secret of Humanity: Why “No Choice” is a Myth
We say it all the time: “I didn’t have a choice.” We say it when we stay in a soul-sucking job. We say it when we follow a rule we hate. We say it when we react in anger. It’s a convenient phrase because it absolves us of responsibility. If there was no choice, there is…
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The Accountability Crisis: Why Owning Your Mess is Your New Superpower
This was a topic I recently spoke with my daughter about, and she told me “Mom, I wish people were taught about this.” So, here we go. We are currently living through an accountability “mid-life crisis.” If you scroll through social media or flip on a prestige drama like Yellowjackets, the pattern is the same: everyone…
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Exhausted by the “Therapy-Speak” Era
Y’all, I am so tired of the “Me Culture” + “Therapy Speak”. Every time I open social media I feel like I am being bombarded by people trying to push self-validation, avoid personal accountability, and making everything about themselves. So, I decided to look into it and figure out why this is poisoning us every…
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Heart and Soul
Not too long ago I was asked about the difference between the heart and the soul. My answer was actually quite simple, but feels true to me. The soul is for you and the heart is for others. Now hold on a second and hear me out on this one (I’m pretty sure I haven’t…